What attracts women towards men
By FnF Corespondent
PUBLISHED: Mar 09, 2013, 17:19 pm IST | UPDATED: Mar 09, 2013, 17:19 pm
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New Delhi: If there's one thing that has always kept men wondering about women, it has to be figuring out what they love to hear? Most men would agree that when it comes to compliments and sweet nothings, women can never have enough of it. The more they get, the more they want!
So, all that you need to do to impress her is - simply tell her all that she already knows. Yes! Strange but true - whether you are in a committed relationship or worried about her losing interest in you or are an amateur wanting to take your relationship to the next level, here's a complete guide to help you learn exactly what she wants to hear...
'You look gorgeous!'
Hear say: Dr. Sushma Dayal, a clinical psychologist says, "Each of us like to receive compliments as it improves our self-image. It helps us to get rid of our inhibitions, acts as a motivation and helps us enhance our personality."
'You are the first woman in my life'
Abhay Bajaj, 26, a marketing professional says, "When I told my girlfriend that she is the first woman in my life, she was utterly surprised. It's funny, but I believe most women have a myth that guys are rarely committed to a single woman. Once she was convinced, she was able to free herself from all insecurities and was head over heels for me."
Hear say: Archana Nanda, a psychologist opines, "Telling a woman that she is the first person you have been so close to is sure to elevate her self-esteem and assure her of your faithfulness. But one shouldn't do this just to just to flatter a woman, say it only when you mean it from the bottom of your heart. It will rip your relationship apart if she finds out that you kept her in the dark about your real emotions."
Don't just be grateful for every little effort that she puts to turn you on - say it aloud!
Anant Joshi, 29, (name changed on request) says, "A few months ago I complimented my wife for her performance in bed and I think that was the greatest turn on for her since then. She's now more experimental and also more open to my sexual advances. I think it's not just men but women too who like to be appreciated for the efforts they make in the bedroom."
Hear say: Sunil Garg, an expert on sex-related issues states, "You are sure to boost to a woman's sexuality when you tell her that she was super in the act. It will want her to explore more of herself and not just you. She will be able to connect with you in a sexual context."
'You'll make a great mother'
Hear say: "It's important to assure a woman that she will be a good mother and that she has qualities like compassion and endurance being a good parent. This will make her believe in herself and also prepare her for the new role," adds Dr. Sushma.
'Will you spend your life with me?'
Richa Nanda, 25, who works with an advertising agency in Delhi confesses, "I had been dating a guy for the last six months. We work in the same office. Although I like him very much, I was a bit reluctant to commit to him prematurely. He recently asked me whether I would like to get married to him and it was then that I made up my mind. I was convinced that he is genuinely interested in me and would like to take the relationship further."
Hear say: "I think this is the most difficult thing to ask a woman. It is a very important question and it means asking her for a long-term commitment. So, it is important to be sure before you speak your mind," adds Archana.
'What do you think about .............?'
Kanika Shrivastava, 28, who works with a telecom company in Delhi agrees, "I feel really special when my boyfriend asks for my opinion. It boosts my ego. He consults me before taking any major decisions - whether it is regarding his career or investments. I appreciate the fact that he values me not just for my looks but also my brains."
Hear say: "It's important for a woman to believe that she is an important part of the decision making process. Asking her for advice - no matter how big or small the decision - makes her feel special and respected," adds Dr. Sushma.
Namita Goswami, 21, a college student says, "The best thing that my boyfriend has ever told me is that he considers me his best friend. Although he has many gal pals, but when it comes to sharing anything special, I am the one he comes to. It is great to find your best friend in your partner."
Hear say: Manmeet Bhalla, a marriage and relationship counselor opines, "Being a woman's friend is the first step to winning her over. It is important for a woman to believe that she means much more to you than just being your wife or your girlfriend. What she needs to feel is that you count on her - when you are in a problem or a dilemma, when you need advice, when you need a shoulder to cry on."
'I am lucky to have you'
Amit Malhotra, 24, a sales executive says, "A year ago, I just told my girlfriend how special she is to me and how lucky I feel to have her in my life and she was thrilled to hear that. Since then I have realised how important it is to be expressive with women."
Hear say: "Telling a woman that she is your lucky charm is a sure shot way to pamper her. It makes her feel that you have not just accepted her in your life, but you are also grateful to her for her presence. It is the most gratifying thought for a woman," adds Manmeet.
'You know what's on my mind'
Madhuri Bhargava, 35, senior manager in a private bank in Noida shares, "I have been married for nine years and my husband always tells me that I know him better than he knows himself, or perhaps even his mom does. It makes me feel exceptionally good when he says that. It attaches with itself a sense of belonging to someone and that is what matters the most to me."
Hear say: "Women generally like to be pampered by saying that they know it all. It's important to convince her that she knows everything about you. It will help keep the spark in your relationship alive," says Dr. Sushma.
'I love you'
"I was thrilled when my boyfriend recently proposed to me. Although I knew that he loves me right from the beginning, but I was just waiting for him to pop the question and say those three special words. I had been dying to hear it from him since a year. It was the most memorable moment of my life," says Shruti, 23, a management student.
Hear say: "There's nothing better that a woman would want to hear from her man. No matter how much you say it through your actions but most women like men who are expressive. It is very important to say what you feel to keep the romance alive. The more often you say, the better it is," says Manmeet.